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call me bo. 23. any pronouns. nonbinary lesbian. radfem in training.

femmeconomics

the “bimbo” subculture is a direct result of the vsco girl subculture. in this essay i will-

the vsco girl trend peaked in late 2019, and was mainly defined by big t-shirts with leggings, scrunches, hydroflask water bottles, and slogans like “save the turtles”. it was harmless, just a lot of girls who made environmental consciousness and general comfort into an aesthetic and, oh yeah, were subjected to ridiculous levels of hatred. the thing about the trend that made it so hated was that it was entirely unable to be sexualized, and overall very hard to market. there’s only so much money one can make off a bunch of girls who wear very little makeup, simple clothes, and try to stay environmentally conscious, and nothing about the comfy and youthful clothes are sexualizable. the trend was very quickly shut down.

over summer 2020– most of 2020 post-quarantine actually— the big new trend was cottagecore, which, once again, was pretty heavily held up by girls having fun. no distinct brands headed the look, and it was defined by big sweaters, long skirts (which hadn’t been in fashion for years), cutesy patterns and colors that can be acquired anywhere, very little makeup, and a video game (animal crossing). once again, very difficult to sexualize as it was, overall, pretty modest and comfortable clothing, and hard to market due to the lack of any brands hailed as superior.

these were both still feminine looks, but they were much less harmful than most of the femininity pushed by brands and media. they were a step in the right direction, a direction that focused less on artificiality or discomfort and more on legitimate expression and fun.

the sudden blow up of the bimbo subculture is a pushback, a look where suddenly it’s woke and even somehow actively progressive for women to act dumb, waste all your money on makeup that keeps you looking exactly how men want you to and on overpriced brands that make you look rich and uncomfortable clothes that sexualize you. these choices do not exist in a vacuum, and this trend is mainly on platforms filled with girls who are barely into their teen years who are being pushed into extreme sexualization that alienates them from their bodies and choices that we cannot freely make in the society we live in. the level of hatred that was directed at the comfortable, fun, and non-sexualized vsco girl trend will never be directed at the bimbo subculture. think for a moment about why that is.

goblinous

It's not just the subcultures themselves either, it's how they bleed into society. Popular subcultures always have some broader influence on attitudes and behaviors.

Sure vsco and cottagecore are only popular with a small subset of women, but they make being environmentally concious, using a few select reusable products, and living a simple, comfortable, self-sufficient life trendy and fashionable. If these subcultures became too influential on social attitudes overall, it would not go well for a lot of companies or for men in general. Men hate when women have interests like gardening or making jam or animal crossing that don't involve pleasing men.

Meanwhile bimbo culture encourages mindless buying and self-objectification, and discourages self-sufficiency, even for women who don't subscribe to the subculture. It pulls expectations for all women in these directions.


daddy-doms-are-gross

i 100% don’t get or believe the rhetoric that in bdsm the sub is somehow “actually” in control at all times. like moving past surface level “safe word” conversations that kinky people love to have. if you are tied up or restrained or in other ways incapacitated, you are not physically in control. your safety and comfort relies 100% on the dom’s respect for your bodily autonomy and if they choose to harm you, you do not have the capacity to stop it. framing kink as something the sub actually has some supernatural control over devalues the trauma and experiences suffered by a multitude of people in kink scenes and places the responsibility on their backs. you can’t have an “exchange of power” and somehow retain control over the scene.


fionatienealas-deactivated20220

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aristocat98

the concept of “kinkshaming” is insane. if we’re not allowed to laugh at someone for getting aroused by shitting in diapers, what are we even allowed to laugh at? bad taste in music?


cop-disliker69

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sprachgefuehle

“That sounds like a good idea…….”-“Is there something bothering you with the idea?”-“No, the idea is GOOD…..🙂”

biteswhenprovoked

Can someone explain this to me?

cop-disliker69

Old people use quotation marks to indicate emphasis, as a substitute for italics (which many of them could not produce on the old typewriters they learned to write on), whereas young people use them to indicate sarcasm or falseness. They’re used as “scare quotes”.

And old people use ellipses simply to indicate a pause, or for some other incomprehensible reason I’m not aware of. But young people use ellipses to indicate passive-aggression.

So an old person could type something like:

how are things going with your “boyfriend”….

and what they mean is

How are things going with your boyfriend? [Im so excited for you, sweetie, and I wanna hear about it]

But a young person would interpret that sentence as

How are things going with your so-called boyfriend…. [I say, while seething with contempt for him and possibly for you too]

kaispeakshermind

The linguistic difference across generations is beautifully explained here thank you


i changed my header, and you have to look at it rn!!!!!!!!!!


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radfemblack

Facts. 75% start as kids. Sex trafficking and sex trade goes hand in hand.

radgoblin

13 is the AVERAGE age of entry into prostitution.

brensey

AMEN!

I’m so sick of the “Sex Work Is Work” dipshits who act as if child prostitution is completely separate from adult prostitution. It isn’t. It’s just the next step. And you can’t support one without also supporting the other.


froelich

ew I’m not one of those pit-shaving man-loving straight-girl feminists


basementdemo

im about to come out to my parents (i’m a heteroromantic demisapiosexual, meaning i only feel sexual attraction to smart people i already have a strong emotional bond with). i hope they accept my Queer identity

basementdemo

guys im shaking my mom threw condoms at me and told me to go bang a dumbass i dont know what to do please help me

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